Building Calm Spaces Like Nests in Trees
A reflection on building calm spaces that pull us in with their energy, and provide us with the relaxation we seek outside.
When you think of a bird’s nest, what comes to mind? Does it remind you of the sound of baby birds chirping or the sight of gorgeous little eggs?
For me, it evokes joyful memories of watching birds weave simple things like twigs into ornate works of art.
I live on a main street in Barcelona lined with various trees. The palm trees that line it e.g., are filled with nests of monk parrots. I love hearing them chirp upon waking and watching them fly around with twigs to build their nests. And when their chicks arrive you’ll see parent birds swoop down to gather bits of food for their young.
“Fatty-poo birdies” is what my husband and I have nicknamed these gorgeous creatures who will fight even the pigeons for bread. Can you blame us?
People also love building nests resembling the behaviour of birds in many ways. Thankfully, the option to rent, build, or buy makes our lives much easier than our avian friends’.
A good place to observe nest-building behaviour in people is at a department or furniture store. I hadn’t stepped into a department store for ages, so I took a trip midweek and spent more time observing people than I’d set out to.
I watched parents and children picking out new furniture; soon-to-be mothers choosing from a variety of baby clothes and toys; and couples looking to spruce up their home with fresh bedding and crockery.
Regardless of who we are, we want our nest to be cozy, inviting, and functional, such that we seek out rentals or build homes with a certain checklist in mind:
Home office? Check.
Spacious bathroom(s)? Check
Bright kitchen? Check.
Ample bedroom(s)? Check.
Sofa so comfy you want to sleep on it? Check Check Check!
One thing we can learn from birds is how they make the tree that holds their nest a sanctuary. This is apart from it being a functional space to procreate and stay warm. You’ll see birds perching on tree branches for taking a snooze and seeking shelter in the rain. They know the tree fulfils many needs and make good use of the calm spaces it provides.
In our (human) homes, we tend to give the least attention to calm spaces, even though we need them the most. These calm spaces encourage us to take a deep breath after a long day, or seek refuge when the mind is racing. Could you use a space that allows you to indulge in a beloved hobby, like painting or playing an instrument, perhaps?
I, like many people I know, have often sought out these spaces through costly retreats or at specialised relaxation centres. If you think it’s time for creating a personalised calm space at home, read on below :)
Reflection: Building Your Calm Space
This week’s reflection will help you think about and design your own calm space. The nature of this space will vary depending on your definition of calm and relaxation.
I want a book nook with a comfy chair and ottoman, whilst my friend shared how she prefers to seek refuge in her cozy balcony. She has created a lovely calming retreat area surrounded by plants, a statue of Buddha, some chairs, and a table. Bliss is different for everyone.
I have dreamt about my calm space enough and recently decided to move all the clutter out of the guest bedroom to claim it. All I have to do is add the chair, lamp, and ottoman. Here are 3 questions for you to build your own calm space:
What is the nature of this space, and what should it bring you? What is the calm you seek? Maybe you want a place for joy, peace, focus, or connection?
Will this space be indoors such as in the guest room/a nook in the living room? Or would you like it outdoors in the balcony or patio, for example?
What should it contain and ideally look like? You can write these details down or sketch them, and then make it come alive.
Things to Remember When Creating a Calm Space at Home
You don’t need to splurge to create a calm space. Nor do you need an entire room. Most of us already have a few pillows, a cozy blanket, a yoga mat, and a few candles to spare. These will help you craft a serene place to meditate, write, or do some yoga. Ditto if you have an instrument you love playing or arts and crafts related hobby you enjoy but struggle to pencil in.
When we have a physical calm space that pulls us in, the mental calm space follows. It’s exactly why a cozy yoga centre attracts your attention from the road or Instagram pictures :)
I hope you enjoy creating your unique calm space, and feel free to share your pictures with me.
With gratitude,
Raksha